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Relationships in Camelot

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Relationships come in many varieties. All are important. Camelot, the movie or the play, dramatically demonstrates the dominant role that relationships play in life. The drama revolves around conflicts between marital loyalty, Platonic friendship (King Arthur and Sir Lancelot), military alliances (the “Round Table”),  sexual desire and romantic love (Lancelot and Queen Guinevere).

The dream of the great society of chivalrous friendship and mutual protection and cooperation by the knights was destroyed by the dark forces of  jealousy, resentment, and revenge by the rejected illegitimate son, Mordred. The “Dark Ages” followed. What might have been the ideal civilization was brought down by the power of relationships!


True Friends Help Each Other

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Friendship in real life is a never ending circle of love and mutual support. Friends want to help each other without keeping score. They just care and want to help. Reciprocity comes naturally and without obligation. When I think of all the many things that friends have done for me and that I have done for friends, I wonder what we can do for each other online… Surely there are things we can do for each other online, but consider some of the examples of offline friendship in action: (abreviated here, but very important at the time)

1) helping hands when moving — I’ve helped and been helped on numerous occasions

2) transportation to and from airports, and staying overnight in home

3) coming to rescue when out of gas or battery dead or car breakdown

4) tech support for computer and internet challenges

5) loan of money on short notice of emergency need

6) ride to the emergency room and accompany all day in waiting room

7) Audio/Video assistance for meetings and meetups

8) videography and editing for a friend’s website

9) allowing a homeless friend to live for awhile in our home

10) visiting in the hospital and bringing clothes and books, etc.

I am trying to learn how we can be there for each other online, because being there for each other is an integral part of real friendship and real relationships.

Social Media Effect on Relationships (+ or -)

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“We may enjoy online relationships using social media sites like Facebook or Twitter, for example, but the difference between these kinds of interactions and interactions with people in the physical world is clearly vast,” according to Alex Lickerman, M.D.  In his recent article in Psychology Today, Dr. Lickerman wrote:

As long as we expect no more from these online relationships than they can give, no good reason exists why we can’t enjoy the power of social media sites to connect us efficiently to people we’d otherwise not touch. The problem, however, comes when we find ourselves subtly substituting electronic relationships for physical ones or mistaking our electronic relationships for physical ones. We may feel we’re connecting effectively with others via the Internet, but too much electronic-relating paradoxically engenders a sense of social isolation.

In response to the article mentioned above, Alexandra Samuel (a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review) chose to accentuate the positive benefits of social media. In her blog post entitled, “4 Ways Online Communication Can Build Relationships,” she wrote:

In a world of job changes and social mobility, it’s easier to socialize with the friends in town than the pal who has known you since college. But nothing substitutes for old friends — and if there’s one thing that Facebook has done brilliantly, it’s the way so many of us are now back in frequent contact with the friends we knew in previous lives. Invest in regular check-ins with your old and dear friends, even if those friendships have lapsed; after a few months of loose contact by Facebook and Twitter, looking at each other’s news and family photos, you’ll be ready to pick up the phone or plan a visit.

See my previous post: “Social Media May Help Save Abandoned Treasure!”

Giving Thanks for Friends Family and Love

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Thanksgiving with Family

Thanksgiving for Family  *

Interdependent Relationships

Relationships have values which are often greater than material possessions. Love, of course, is “the greatest of these” few things which endure. I hope we all remember how precious Love is, per se, aside from any practical fringe benefits. But I also want to point out the motivational power and the synergistic leverage of interdependent relationships.

I’m so Glad I Did…or I Wish I had…

People know HOW to do MANY MORE things than they actually do, including things we could do for each other. WHY we do things is based on motivation, and heartfelt emotion is among the strongest of motivating forces.

To paraphrase an old Coke commercial, “things go better with friends and family!” Holidays like Thanksgiving (in the USA) remind us of the enjoyment of togetherness and also the synergy of cooperative events.

Happiness is…

We made a BRIEF video of our Thanksgiving celebration with friends and family, including a friend who shares our home until he can get one of his own again. We also enjoyed the company of a loving friend with Cerebral Palsy who inspires us with her positive attitude and reminds us to be thankful for things we take for granted.

Watch COOL (brief) VIDEO:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4Ls92e7zAA

.*  credit due to: http://histruthis.blogspot.com/2011_11_01_archive.html  for the photo above in this blog  post

Opportunity Cost

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Opportunity Cost

Choosing one path has kept us from another. The difference is called “Opportunity Cost.”  As we reflect on our past, we may say, “Gee, I’m glad I did!” or “Gee, I wish I had…”  John Greenleaf Whittier wrote, “For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are those “It might have been”.  Choices yield consequences and ramifications that may last a lifetime.

Socrates sought genuine knowledge. Even in debates,  he pursued truth open-mindedly, rather than mere victory over an opponent.  He famously said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

Karl W. Palachuk wrote an interesting article about the subject in his blog, “Relax, Focus, Succeed.” Here is an excerpt:

When you set aside time to examine your life,  You get to choose your destination;  You get to set the goals; You get to determine the path; You get to decide how long it will take; You get to decide whether you’re on the right path or the wrong path.

In other words, you begin to know your self and to take control of your life. You decide who you want to be and begin to become the person you want to be.

Robert Frost wrote in one of my favorite poems,

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
I distinctly remember when the roads diverged for me, and I left college teaching to become self-employed. I also remember several other momentous occasions when I made choices with huge ramifications. George Bernard Shaw, who won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925, was asked, while on his death bed, “If you could have been anybody in the world, who would you have chosen to be?” He answered, without hesitation, “The George Bernard Shaw I COULD have been, but wasn’t.”
Jessie Belle Rittenhouse has been quoted thousands of times on his poem:
I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;
For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.
As I examine my life, I consider these quotes with some regrets and some satisfaction, but mostly with determination to make the most of the time I have left. I am consoled by the Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule), because I estimate that I have at least 20% of my life left and therefore I can potentially accomplish 80% as much as someone could in their whole life! 😉


Engage and Interact to Build Relationships Online

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engage in conversation

Interact and Socialize

Engage

Relationships online are formed by engaging in conversations and interacting. Commenting on another person’s posts or status updates is just as important as posting your own content. Following up and responding to the comments of others gives them attention and recognition, which are important human needs.

Invest Attention

Old fashioned push advertising or brochure-like web sites are impotent. Paying (investing) attention to what others are saying (writing) online is the beginning of a real relationship. It is more effective to be interested than to be interesting!

The idea of engagement deserves repeating and emphasizing. It seems obvious, but most people do not practice it enough — including me…

It is my sincere intention to engage in more conversation and interaction in social networks and communities in 2013.

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Online and Offline Relationships

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Online and Offline Relationships — It Goes Both Ways

“Online Building Offline Relationships”  is the title of a post by George Couros in his blog, “The Principal of Change.” George is an innovative school Principal who writes about fostering effective relationships. I couldn’t agree more with what Principal Couros wrote:

If I know anything, whether it is as an administrator, teacher, or simply a human being, everything starts with relationships.  If we can’t connect with people, it is hard for us to do anything.  If technology can help that, we should be all over it.

In a post about building relationships online and some easy ways to achieve it, Leo Jackson wrote:

You see I believe the number one way to make it as a blogger is to make relationships with other bloggers… Be sure when they do status updates or upload videos etc. you are engaging with them. Answer questions when they ask, if something they posted helped you out at all, tell them.

Finding Love Online

In a previous post I mentioned examples of how Social Networking May Lead to Love:

Love begins with contact, online or offline. I have several personal friends who met strangers online, developed relationships, and have been happily married for a decade or more to persons they met online. One happy couple met playing cards online. Those relationships are worth a thousand other Facebook Friends. The key is that they turned contacts into relationships.

Non-Verbal Communication

It goes both ways — online to offline or offline to online. In another post, “Communicating Love at a distance,” I pointed out:

Love is a “many splendorous thing.” Love is best shared live and in person. Non-verbal communication enhances the whole experience. However, there are many situations in which lovers are not in the same location. Modern technology has provided many channels of communication to bridge the gaps. love on the internet

Videoconferencing, Skype, and Google+ Hangouts to the rescue! See my post, Video vs. Text on Social Media:

Certainly we can get more cues to the meaning and the feeling behind content from body language, facial expression and tone of voice, etc.  Especially emotion and conviction are conveyed better through visual cues than through mere text.

Dating in the Digital Age

Ken Solin writes about Dating in the Digital Age on the AARP website. Ken is a former entrepreneur turned dating expert. Although singles meet on the AARP Dating website, Ken says:

Telephones still work best

Get on the phone and be your authentic self. That way, you won’t feel the burden of living up to an image that isn’t really you… Ten minutes on the phone can tell you more than a month of emailing.

Gina Stewart is an online dating consultant and columnist who has worked with several big marketing firms but found her passion as an online dating consultant that helps her clients market themselves. As a guest on the dating blog, FrankLove.net, Gina said:

whether you like it or not, you are presenting a picture of yourself, a brand, and ultimately you’re trying to get people to buy that brand and go out on a date with you…your online dating written profile, your emails, your behavior, should all be geared with that in mind. That you are ultimately trying to get someone to do something which is go out with you, get to know you further or whatever.

So, when people are online dating, they need know that they need to represent themselves as a brand. They need to be consistent about the message that they’re sending to other people in terms of the type of person that they are. It’s also really important to identify who their audience is. Who is it that you’re actually trying to attract?

Online Marketing is Like Dating

Marketing on the Internet is similar to online dating. Here too it is strongly recommended that you ask yourself this simple question: “who exactly is looking for my content, product or service?”

Better Than Money?

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Does Money Buy Happiness? Better Than Money

 

 

 

 

 

What is Better Than Money?

An article by Geoffrey James in Inc. Magazine outlines “10 Things Better Than Money,”  in which he writes:

Assuming you want to create both wealth and happiness for yourself and those around you, you have two approaches: wait until you’re wealthy to be happy, or become more happy now and thereby create more wealth.

I maintain that, in today’s economy, it’s easier to start with the happiness, because unlike wealth (which takes time to accumulate), you can increase the amount of happiness in your life within minutes, simply by taking more notice of things that make you happy.

What Women (and Men) Really Want

Let’s be honest here. Money can certainly help us satisfy our basic needs, like food, shelter, safety, etc. One could even buy sex.  Poverty can make life more difficult.  Money can even enhance our self-esteem and help us satisfy our need for belonging.  However, the love of money for its own sake can lead to unhappiness.  I am not against money.  My main point in this post is that there are some things that are even “better than money”.

Attention!

People need attention to satisfy a wide range of emotional needs, including love, belonging, and empowerment.  Children will do whatever it takes to get attention — even misbehaving.  Teenagers use “shocking” styles of clothing and grooming to be noticed.  Adults try to “keep up with the Joneses.”  Flashy red or yellow sports cars get attention.

If you had unlimited wealth, wouldn’t you like to share some? The good news is that you DO have a virtual fortune in gems that are better than money! Pay attention!  This is one secret of successful leadership…pay attention!  Rather invest attentionBeing interested makes you interesting!

Recognition

Psychologists believe that attention and recognition are primary needs, like food and water. Understanding this secret can be the key to your success as a leader. Knowing this secret helped Mary Kay build a billion dollar empire. She said, “There are two things that people want even more than sex and money: recognition and praise.”

Sincere praise costs the giver very little, but it is precious to the receiver. What a fantastic  bargain!

Faith, Hope and Love Corinthians_13_13_

The Dalai Lama wrote a post about our need for love on the “HealYourLife.com” blog.  Here are some excerpts from that article:

ULTIMATELY, the reason why love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. It results from the profound interdependence we all share with one another.

No material object—however beautiful or valuable—can make us feel loved, because our deeper identity and true character lie in the subjective nature of the mind.

Job Satisfaction and Personal Fulfillment

According to Psychologist Abraham Maslow, when we are not starved for food or safety, we tend to seek love and belonging.  If we have love and belonging, we seek respect and creativity, etc.  Most people in the modern world are motivated by more than hunger or security.

Steve Jobs, Founder of Apple, said, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.  If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.  Don’t settle.  As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

Why can’t we all be satisfied?

An article in the PsyBlog outlines “10 Psychological Keys to Job Satisfaction,” with the following conclusion:

When you look at this list of what makes for a satisfying job, you might wonder why everyone can’t have one. With a little thought, most of the predictors of satisfaction can be provided.

The answer is probably quite simple. Organisations pay lip-service to keeping their employees satisfied, but many don’t really believe it makes a difference. What this research shows is that it can make a huge difference.

In conclusion, I hope that while we are busy “making” money, we will keep the need for money in perspective relative to other needs.  Let’s be happy, healthy, and satisfied!  Now, please make me happy by sharing some “Comment Luv.”  I will love you back… 😉

 


Einstein on Human Relativity

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Declaration of Interdependence

Albert Einstein is known as one of the smartest men in the world and the author of the theory of relativity.  Did you know that he applied the concept of relativity to human relationships as well?

In his essay, The World as I See It,  Einstein wrote:

…without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people — first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving…

Relativity Goes Both Ways

Anthony Robbins  says,

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.

Mobile Society Strains Relationships

With freedom comes geographical mobility. Unfortunately, we often move and often leave friends and business contacts behind — out of sight, out of mind.  All too often we waste the precious deposits previously made in “emotional bank accounts.” What a sad loss of valuable social capital! It takes a long time to make an old friend! It is so special to be able to say, “we go waaaay back!”

In a previous post I offered a partial solution: “Social Media Deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts.” I wrote:

It is very sad when “the illusive butterfly of love” flies away, or when we lose touch with old friends or family. This subject calls to mind the lyrics from the Simon and Garfunkel song, “Someone left the cake out in the rain! I don’t think that I can make it;  ’cause it took so long to bake it, and I’ll never have the recipe again!”

… it is no accident that the strength of a friendship or family relationship may increase or decrease over time.  The relationship must be nurtured or else it will whither.

Mobile Phones to the Rescue!

I hope that new technology and social networking services will help us keep in touch with old friends. However, as with any tools, it is up to the human operator to use them effectively. Another great new channel of communication is Video Conferencing. It helps to include non-verbal communication signals.

Free Video Conferencing Online with

Google Hangout

Google has introduced an amazing new tool for FREE VIDEO CONFERENCING.  Google Hangout allows you to use your webcam to conference with up to ten presenters in up to 10 different locations simultaneously.  You can even broadcast the conference LIVE or RECORDED to an unlimited audience.

Relationships in Camelot

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Relationships come in many varieties. All are important. Camelot, the movie or the play, dramatically demonstrates the dominant role that relationships play in life. The drama revolves around conflicts between marital loyalty, Platonic friendship (King Arthur and Sir Lancelot), military alliances (the “Round Table”),  sexual desire and romantic love (Lancelot and Queen Guinevere).

The dream of the great society of chivalrous friendship and mutual protection and cooperation by the knights was destroyed by the dark forces of  jealousy, resentment, and revenge by the rejected illegitimate son, Mordred. The “Dark Ages” followed. What might have been the ideal civilization was brought down by the power of relationships!

True Friends Help Each Other

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Friendship in real life is a never ending circle of love and mutual support. Friends want to help each other without keeping score. They just care and want to help. Reciprocity comes naturally and without obligation. When I think of all the many things that friends have done for me and that I have done for friends, I wonder what we can do for each other online… Surely there are things we can do for each other online, but consider some of the examples of offline friendship in action: (abreviated here, but very important at the time)

1) helping hands when moving — I’ve helped and been helped on numerous occasions

2) transportation to and from airports, and staying overnight in home

3) coming to rescue when out of gas or battery dead or car breakdown

4) tech support for computer and internet challenges

5) loan of money on short notice of emergency need

6) ride to the emergency room and accompany all day in waiting room

7) Audio/Video assistance for meetings and meetups

8) videography and editing for a friend’s website

9) allowing a homeless friend to live for awhile in our home

10) visiting in the hospital and bringing clothes and books, etc.

I am trying to learn how we can be there for each other online, because being there for each other is an integral part of real friendship and real relationships.

Social Media Effect on Relationships (+ or -)

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“We may enjoy online relationships using social media sites like Facebook or Twitter, for example, but the difference between these kinds of interactions and interactions with people in the physical world is clearly vast,” according to Alex Lickerman, M.D.  In his recent article in Psychology Today, Dr. Lickerman wrote:

As long as we expect no more from these online relationships than they can give, no good reason exists why we can’t enjoy the power of social media sites to connect us efficiently to people we’d otherwise not touch. The problem, however, comes when we find ourselves subtly substituting electronic relationships for physical ones or mistaking our electronic relationships for physical ones. We may feel we’re connecting effectively with others via the Internet, but too much electronic-relating paradoxically engenders a sense of social isolation.

In response to the article mentioned above, Alexandra Samuel (a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review) chose to accentuate the positive benefits of social media. In her blog post entitled, “4 Ways Online Communication Can Build Relationships,” she wrote:

In a world of job changes and social mobility, it’s easier to socialize with the friends in town than the pal who has known you since college. But nothing substitutes for old friends — and if there’s one thing that Facebook has done brilliantly, it’s the way so many of us are now back in frequent contact with the friends we knew in previous lives. Invest in regular check-ins with your old and dear friends, even if those friendships have lapsed; after a few months of loose contact by Facebook and Twitter, looking at each other’s news and family photos, you’ll be ready to pick up the phone or plan a visit.

See my previous post: “Social Media May Help Save Abandoned Treasure!”

Giving Thanks for Friends Family and Love

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Thanksgiving with Family

Thanksgiving for Family  *

Interdependent Relationships

Relationships have values which are often greater than material possessions. Love, of course, is “the greatest of these” few things which endure. I hope we all remember how precious Love is, per se, aside from any practical fringe benefits. But I also want to point out the motivational power and the synergistic leverage of interdependent relationships.

I’m so Glad I Did…or I Wish I had…

People know HOW to do MANY MORE things than they actually do, including things we could do for each other. WHY we do things is based on motivation, and heartfelt emotion is among the strongest of motivating forces.

To paraphrase an old Coke commercial, “things go better with friends and family!” Holidays like Thanksgiving (in the USA) remind us of the enjoyment of togetherness and also the synergy of cooperative events.

Happiness is…

We made a BRIEF video of our Thanksgiving celebration with friends and family, including a friend who shares our home until he can get one of his own again. We also enjoyed the company of a loving friend with Cerebral Palsy who inspires us with her positive attitude and reminds us to be thankful for things we take for granted.

Watch COOL (brief) VIDEO:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4Ls92e7zAA

.*  credit due to: http://histruthis.blogspot.com/2011_11_01_archive.html  for the photo above in this blog  post

Opportunity Cost

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Opportunity Cost

Choosing one path has kept us from another. The difference is called “Opportunity Cost.”  As we reflect on our past, we may say, “Gee, I’m glad I did!” or “Gee, I wish I had…”  John Greenleaf Whittier wrote, “For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are those “It might have been”.  Choices yield consequences and ramifications that may last a lifetime.

Socrates sought genuine knowledge. Even in debates,  he pursued truth open-mindedly, rather than mere victory over an opponent.  He famously said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

Karl W. Palachuk wrote an interesting article about the subject in his blog, “Relax, Focus, Succeed.” Here is an excerpt:

When you set aside time to examine your life,  You get to choose your destination;  You get to set the goals; You get to determine the path; You get to decide how long it will take; You get to decide whether you’re on the right path or the wrong path.

In other words, you begin to know your self and to take control of your life. You decide who you want to be and begin to become the person you want to be.

Robert Frost wrote in one of my favorite poems,

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
I distinctly remember when the roads diverged for me, and I left college teaching to become self-employed. I also remember several other momentous occasions when I made choices with huge ramifications. George Bernard Shaw, who won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925, was asked, while on his death bed, “If you could have been anybody in the world, who would you have chosen to be?” He answered, without hesitation, “The George Bernard Shaw I COULD have been, but wasn’t.”
Jessie Belle Rittenhouse has been quoted thousands of times on his poem:
I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;
For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.
As I examine my life, I consider these quotes with some regrets and some satisfaction, but mostly with determination to make the most of the time I have left. I am consoled by the Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule), because I estimate that I have at least 20% of my life left and therefore I can potentially accomplish 80% as much as someone could in their whole life! 😉


Engage and Interact to Build Relationships Online

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engage in conversation

Interact and Socialize

Engage

Relationships online are formed by engaging in conversations and interacting. Commenting on another person’s posts or status updates is just as important as posting your own content. Following up and responding to the comments of others gives them attention and recognition, which are important human needs.

Invest Attention

Old fashioned push advertising or brochure-like web sites are impotent. Paying (investing) attention to what others are saying (writing) online is the beginning of a real relationship. It is more effective to be interested than to be interesting!

The idea of engagement deserves repeating and emphasizing. It seems obvious, but most people do not practice it enough — including me…

It is my sincere intention to engage in more conversation and interaction in social networks and communities in 2013.

Enhanced by Zemanta

Online and Offline Relationships

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Online and Offline Relationships — It Goes Both Ways

“Online Building Offline Relationships”  is the title of a post by George Couros in his blog, “The Principal of Change.” George is an innovative school Principal who writes about fostering effective relationships. I couldn’t agree more with what Principal Couros wrote:

If I know anything, whether it is as an administrator, teacher, or simply a human being, everything starts with relationships.  If we can’t connect with people, it is hard for us to do anything.  If technology can help that, we should be all over it.

In a post about building relationships online and some easy ways to achieve it, Leo Jackson wrote:

You see I believe the number one way to make it as a blogger is to make relationships with other bloggers… Be sure when they do status updates or upload videos etc. you are engaging with them. Answer questions when they ask, if something they posted helped you out at all, tell them.

Finding Love Online

In a previous post I mentioned examples of how Social Networking May Lead to Love:

Love begins with contact, online or offline. I have several personal friends who met strangers online, developed relationships, and have been happily married for a decade or more to persons they met online. One happy couple met playing cards online. Those relationships are worth a thousand other Facebook Friends. The key is that they turned contacts into relationships.

Non-Verbal Communication

It goes both ways — online to offline or offline to online. In another post, “Communicating Love at a distance,” I pointed out:

Love is a “many splendorous thing.” Love is best shared live and in person. Non-verbal communication enhances the whole experience. However, there are many situations in which lovers are not in the same location. Modern technology has provided many channels of communication to bridge the gaps. love on the internet

Videoconferencing, Skype, and Google+ Hangouts to the rescue! See my post, Video vs. Text on Social Media:

Certainly we can get more cues to the meaning and the feeling behind content from body language, facial expression and tone of voice, etc.  Especially emotion and conviction are conveyed better through visual cues than through mere text.

Dating in the Digital Age

Ken Solin writes about Dating in the Digital Age on the AARP website. Ken is a former entrepreneur turned dating expert. Although singles meet on the AARP Dating website, Ken says:

Telephones still work best

Get on the phone and be your authentic self. That way, you won’t feel the burden of living up to an image that isn’t really you… Ten minutes on the phone can tell you more than a month of emailing.

Gina Stewart is an online dating consultant and columnist who has worked with several big marketing firms but found her passion as an online dating consultant that helps her clients market themselves. As a guest on the dating blog, FrankLove.net, Gina said:

whether you like it or not, you are presenting a picture of yourself, a brand, and ultimately you’re trying to get people to buy that brand and go out on a date with you…your online dating written profile, your emails, your behavior, should all be geared with that in mind. That you are ultimately trying to get someone to do something which is go out with you, get to know you further or whatever.

So, when people are online dating, they need know that they need to represent themselves as a brand. They need to be consistent about the message that they’re sending to other people in terms of the type of person that they are. It’s also really important to identify who their audience is. Who is it that you’re actually trying to attract?

Online Marketing is Like Dating

Marketing on the Internet is similar to online dating. Here too it is strongly recommended that you ask yourself this simple question: “who exactly is looking for my content, product or service?”

Better Than Money?

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Does Money Buy Happiness? Better Than Money

 

 

 

 

 

What is Better Than Money?

An article by Geoffrey James in Inc. Magazine outlines “10 Things Better Than Money,”  in which he writes:

Assuming you want to create both wealth and happiness for yourself and those around you, you have two approaches: wait until you’re wealthy to be happy, or become more happy now and thereby create more wealth.

I maintain that, in today’s economy, it’s easier to start with the happiness, because unlike wealth (which takes time to accumulate), you can increase the amount of happiness in your life within minutes, simply by taking more notice of things that make you happy.

What Women (and Men) Really Want

Let’s be honest here. Money can certainly help us satisfy our basic needs, like food, shelter, safety, etc. One could even buy sex.  Poverty can make life more difficult.  Money can even enhance our self-esteem and help us satisfy our need for belonging.  However, the love of money for its own sake can lead to unhappiness.  I am not against money.  My main point in this post is that there are some things that are even “better than money”.

Attention!

People need attention to satisfy a wide range of emotional needs, including love, belonging, and empowerment.  Children will do whatever it takes to get attention — even misbehaving.  Teenagers use “shocking” styles of clothing and grooming to be noticed.  Adults try to “keep up with the Joneses.”  Flashy red or yellow sports cars get attention.

If you had unlimited wealth, wouldn’t you like to share some? The good news is that you DO have a virtual fortune in gems that are better than money! Pay attention!  This is one secret of successful leadership…pay attention!  Rather invest attentionBeing interested makes you interesting!

Recognition

Psychologists believe that attention and recognition are primary needs, like food and water. Understanding this secret can be the key to your success as a leader. Knowing this secret helped Mary Kay build a billion dollar empire. She said, “There are two things that people want even more than sex and money: recognition and praise.”

Sincere praise costs the giver very little, but it is precious to the receiver. What a fantastic  bargain!

Faith, Hope and Love Corinthians_13_13_

The Dalai Lama wrote a post about our need for love on the “HealYourLife.com” blog.  Here are some excerpts from that article:

ULTIMATELY, the reason why love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. It results from the profound interdependence we all share with one another.

No material object—however beautiful or valuable—can make us feel loved, because our deeper identity and true character lie in the subjective nature of the mind.

Job Satisfaction and Personal Fulfillment

According to Psychologist Abraham Maslow, when we are not starved for food or safety, we tend to seek love and belonging.  If we have love and belonging, we seek respect and creativity, etc.  Most people in the modern world are motivated by more than hunger or security.

Steve Jobs, Founder of Apple, said, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.  If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.  Don’t settle.  As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

Why can’t we all be satisfied?

An article in the PsyBlog outlines “10 Psychological Keys to Job Satisfaction,” with the following conclusion:

When you look at this list of what makes for a satisfying job, you might wonder why everyone can’t have one. With a little thought, most of the predictors of satisfaction can be provided.

The answer is probably quite simple. Organisations pay lip-service to keeping their employees satisfied, but many don’t really believe it makes a difference. What this research shows is that it can make a huge difference.

In conclusion, I hope that while we are busy “making” money, we will keep the need for money in perspective relative to other needs.  Let’s be happy, healthy, and satisfied!  Now, please make me happy by sharing some “Comment Luv.”  I will love you back… 😉

 

Einstein on Human Relativity

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Declaration of Interdependence

Albert Einstein is known as one of the smartest men in the world and the author of the theory of relativity.  Did you know that he applied the concept of relativity to human relationships as well?

In his essay, The World as I See It,  Einstein wrote:

…without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people — first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving…

Relativity Goes Both Ways

Anthony Robbins  says,

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.

Mobile Society Strains Relationships

With freedom comes geographical mobility. Unfortunately, we often move and often leave friends and business contacts behind — out of sight, out of mind.  All too often we waste the precious deposits previously made in “emotional bank accounts.” What a sad loss of valuable social capital! It takes a long time to make an old friend! It is so special to be able to say, “we go waaaay back!”

In a previous post I offered a partial solution: “Social Media Deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts.” I wrote:

It is very sad when “the illusive butterfly of love” flies away, or when we lose touch with old friends or family. This subject calls to mind the lyrics from the Simon and Garfunkel song, “Someone left the cake out in the rain! I don’t think that I can make it;  ’cause it took so long to bake it, and I’ll never have the recipe again!”

… it is no accident that the strength of a friendship or family relationship may increase or decrease over time.  The relationship must be nurtured or else it will whither.

Mobile Phones to the Rescue!

I hope that new technology and social networking services will help us keep in touch with old friends. However, as with any tools, it is up to the human operator to use them effectively. Another great new channel of communication is Video Conferencing. It helps to include non-verbal communication signals.

Free Video Conferencing Online with

Google Hangout

Google has introduced an amazing new tool for FREE VIDEO CONFERENCING.  Google Hangout allows you to use your webcam to conference with up to ten presenters in up to 10 different locations simultaneously.  You can even broadcast the conference LIVE or RECORDED to an unlimited audience.

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